068 – How to Be Your Biggest Fan
“Define your work in a way that serves you”
As entrepreneurs and small business owners we can always be pushing And never satisfied
We think if we just work a little harder and a little longer – all the problems will go away.
- You will never master this thing called business
That’s Good news and Bad news
- It’s good to have something that will cause you to work hard and Develop
- But Bad, if you don’t balance it
This Podcast is Perspective On a BALANCED View
We put a lot on ourselves.
We read books and go to seminars and listen to podcasts – And we become idea junkies
WE Want to do it all
- I have to read that book
- I have to implement that
Always pushing and never satisfied
AND …We Don’t Celebrate our wins! BC there is always more to do.
WE DON’T LEAVE ANY MARGIN TO THINK – TO THINK!
Let me tell you something Friend…
THAT doesn’t serve you.
You will not be your Biggest FAN – YOU WILL BE YOUR BIGGEST CRITIC
Everyone else is Celebrating You and saying – Wow, Well Done…but you’re not satisfied
THAT DOES NOT SERVE YOU
Here’s the phrase I would ask you to memorize so that you can repeat to yourself
“Define your work in a way that serves you”
Work is not a dreaded 9 to 5 existence
It is an expression of your unique gifts, talents and life experience for the Purpose of Serving other people
Working ON Your Business: Yes you should do that…
If you’re going to work ON your business – There is a lot of Thinking Work and NEW things you have to learn.
It’s a little like learning how to play the piano
- It is awkward and clunky and you’re not very good at it.
You have a choice…
You can either celebrate yourself for making the Big Decision to leave your comfort zone – OR you can be impatient with yourself and Condemn yourself.
I got this quote from Jeff Walker – it was a simple idea but very profound
DEFINE YOUR WORK IN A WAY THAT SERVES YOU
“YOUR WORK” – does not have to be just your business building work – it can be anything you are working on to reach your full potential
You have made a choice to Live into the fullness of your potential – AND that means, doing something you are not good at now.
One of those things for me was Podcasting.
I saw it as a big part of the work I wanted to do at MMT
And I knew I was not good at it
I was going to give myself the time to be bad – permission to be Incompetent for a period of time.
But somewhere along the journey – I lost some of that Grace for myself
My podcast was condemning me. OR I was condemning me bc of my podcast work
“Define it in a way that serves you”
Here are some other thoughts on this…
- Small beginnings. Lower the bar and create the habit first.
“define it in a way that serves you” – – – Make your work A Fun and Joyful part of your life.
- Give yourself Grace to Start Small
- Give yourself permission to be an amateur
- Celebrate your WINS – we all have a lot on our lists. We get them done and then go right to the next thing. Celebrate and Ring the Cow Bell! YOU HAVE TO BE YOUR BIGGEST CHEERLEADER.
- Celebrate More
- Celebrate YOU and be Generous and Encouraging when you have a good day or a good win.
- Be On Guard against condemning yourself. DALE CARNEGIE – do not CCC. There is this TAPE running in the background – The critical voices…You’re Doing IT Wrong. What ever IT is. Listen…NO you are NOT! You are Doing it. And you are figuring it out.
Saw this title for a John Maxwell Book:
“Sometimes you win, sometimes you learn”
- I don’t have to read the book – I Just need that reminder
- Work from a place of Contribution – not just accumulation and accomplishment. Get your joy from what you GIVE to life, not from what you GET from life.
- THAT WILL BE DIFFERENT FOR EVERY PERSON.
- How do YOU, give to life!
- Do Your Unique work – Your Bradmillerness Work – do not compare your work to others. Comparison is the death spiral into ourselves. You are the Intelligent Designer – do your Unique Work that no one else can do
“Define YOUR WORK in a way that serves you” – CHOOSE TO BE YOUR BIGGEST FAN AND – then you can Celebrate Yourself and Your Big Life
